Motherhood is often painted as a beautiful, fulfilling journey. And while it can be, the reality for many new moms is quite different—often marked by feelings of loneliness and isolation that no one talks about. I know what that feels like.
There were moments I sat, overwhelmed, wondering if anyone else felt as alone as I did in the midst of caring for a newborn.
The truth is, many new moms do.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re navigating motherhood in isolation, you’re not alone. And more importantly, it doesn’t have to stay this way.
The Rise of Loneliness in Motherhood: Why It Happens
There are so many reasons new moms feel isolated, and when you dig into them, you realize how society has shifted away from the support networks mothers once had.
The Changing Social Landscape
Once, we had a village—family members and neighbors were all nearby, offering help and sharing the load. Today, many of us live far from family, with jobs and urbanization scattering loved ones across states or even countries. We find ourselves alone, trying to do the work that generations of women did together.
I remember the ache of missing my village—the sense of being adrift, of trying to figure it all out without the comforting presence of those who’d been there before. A 2017 study found that social isolation among new mothers is growing. It’s no wonder we feel this way; we’ve lost our village.
The Social Media Trap
And then there’s social media. While it connects us, it also fuels isolation. When you're scrolling through perfectly curated feeds of moms who seem to have it all together, it's hard not to compare your struggles to their highlight reels.
I’ve been there, deep in the trenches of sleepless nights, wondering why I couldn’t manage it all like the moms online seemed to. A 2020 study found that excessive social media use contributes to negative comparisons, leaving us feeling more alone than ever.
Postpartum Mental Health
And let’s talk about postpartum depression and anxiety—those invisible weights that drag you down just when you need strength the most. Around 1 in 7 new mothers experience postpartum depression, which often amplifies feelings of isolation. I’ve walked that path, feeling the heaviness of those early weeks, not knowing how to ask for help or where to find it.
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Why Loneliness Strikes: Unpacking the Feelings
When I became a mom, I felt the crushing isolation that came from having no nearby support and the pressure to “do it all.” I was drowning in societal expectations that demanded perfection, but instead, I felt lost. Studies show that the expectations placed on us—combined with the fragmented nature of modern society—create this overwhelming sense of loneliness for new moms.
We feel we have to manage everything on our own, but the reality is, we weren’t meant to do this alone.
Finding Your Way Out: Strategies for Connection: Overcoming Loneliness in Motherhood
There is a way out of the loneliness. It starts with recognizing that you deserve support, that reaching out isn’t a sign of failure but a step toward healing. Here are some strategies that helped me, and I hope they help you too:
1. Build and Nurture Your Own Village
It takes time, but you can create your village so you can start Overcoming Loneliness in Motherhood. Find local parenting groups, attend meet-ups, or even host your own. Sometimes, it’s as simple as showing up at a park or library and striking up a conversation with another mom.
For those of us who crave deeper connection, my 1:1 coaching program offers personalized support, helping you build both confidence and community. Together, we’ll develop strategies to help you reclaim your time, focus on what matters most, and find the support you need.
2. Use Technology, But Wisely
There are great online communities where moms support each other. Just be mindful of how much time you spend comparing yourself to others online. Join Facebook groups or virtual support groups, where you can find real moms who share your struggles and joys.
3. Seek Professional Help When Needed
There’s no shame in needing help. Therapy or coaching can be life-changing. It was for me. Whether you're dealing with postpartum depression or simply need guidance, professional support can help you regain your footing.
My Nurture Coaching Package is designed specifically for moms who need a personalized approach to balance wellness, motherhood, and personal growth. We’ll work together to create actionable steps, so you can feel confident and supported—without the isolation.
4. Prioritize Self-Care
Self-care is more than just a buzzword; it’s necessary for survival in motherhood. Carve out time for yourself, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day. You need space to breathe, to reconnect with who you are outside of “mom.”
The Way Forward: Where to Seek Support
Whether it’s local resources or online platforms, support is out there—you just have to take the first step to find it.
Local Resources:
Parks and Libraries: Many offer programs specifically for parents. They’re great places to meet other moms who are in the same boat.
Community Centers: Parenting classes, support groups, and family events are often hosted at local centers, offering both education and community.
Online Resources:
Facebook Groups: These can be a great place to connect with moms who live nearby or share similar interests.
Parenting Forums: Websites like BabyCenter or What to Expect are filled with discussions, advice, and camaraderie.
Professional Resources:
Therapists and Counselors: For postpartum mental health support, consider therapy. Don’t wait to reach out for help if you feel overwhelmed.
Coaching Packages: If you want a tailored approach to overcoming loneliness and finding balance, my Nurture Coaching Package is here to help. Together, we’ll build the support system you need and craft a plan that works for your unique motherhood journey.
You Deserve Support
The loneliness you may be feeling right now doesn’t define your motherhood journey. You deserve connection, support, and joy—and you don’t have to find that on your own. Reach out, take that first step, and discover the difference a strong support system can make. Let’s work together to create that support for you with the Nurture Coaching Package, where you’ll find not only strategies but true emotional support to navigate motherhood with confidence.
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References
American Psychological Association. (2019). Postpartum depression. Retrieved from APA
Barker, G., & McArthur, K. (2020). Social Networks and Support in Parenting. Journal of Family Issues.
Harris, K. (2018). Societal Expectations and Maternal Isolation. Parenting: Science and Practice.
National Institute of Mental Health. (2021). Postpartum Depression. Retrieved from NIMH
Vogel, E. A., Rose, J. P., Roberts, L. R., & Eckles, K. (2020). Social Media Use and Perceived Social Isolation Among Young Adults in the U.S. The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
Wang, S., Zhang, X., & Zhang, X. (2017). Social Isolation and Its Impact on New Mothers. Social Science & Medicine.
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